Anyone who knows me understands that I have a few obsessions: Pood. Cuddles. Sweaters. Sex and the City. Just to name a few.
Well, needless to say, I’m spending my day off indulging in them all.
Clearly Pood is enjoying the indulgence as much as I am.
I fell in love with Sex and the City my freshman year of college. Being in the peak of my self discovery days, I often referred to it as my bible. These are the top ten lessons I learned from Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda.
1. Dress Fabulous, Feel Fabulous
Yes, I’ll admit, these ladies rocked some questionable outfits at times. But, the point is they rocked whatever they wore. They would strut around the city with confidence. Any day that you wear confidence is going to be a good day.
2. Create a Career Based on Your Passions
Samantha turned her love of partying and socializing into a career as an event planner/PR specialist. Being blunt and thinking critically is Miranda’s specialty, making her the perfect lawyer. Living for art and sophistication, Charlotte found her dream job working at art galleries. Starting as a columnist and turning into a successful author, Carrie allowed her love for writing (and giving sex advice) to become her career. Let your passions and your light lead your life.
3. Don’t Let Society’s Rules Define You
Being twenty-something, I’m finding myself surrounded by marriage and babies. Well, I’m perfectly fine with saying to each their own. While others enjoy taking that path, I’m totally okay with the fact that I’m not. Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda aren’t wives and/or mothers until they’re in their late thirties/early forties. Hell, Samantha is newly single on her 50th birthday. Despite the odds, there are no rules we need to follow on reaching these milestones.
4. Be Your Own Source of Happiness
While relationships are wonderful, they can be toxic. Whether its a significant other, friend, family, or boss/co-worker, it can be easy to let relationships define us. Many times our relationships become our source of happiness. While they play a vital role in living a balanced life, they can’t control our lives. When Carrie first met Big, her life revolved around him. Life was fabulous when he played the role of the perfect boyfriend. On the flip side, anxiety took over when he switched up his game. In the end, they were able to work out because Carrie didn’t depend on Big. She created her own happiness.
5. Stop Looking For Love
Single people are often faced with the stereotype of being desperate. The thing about searching for love is you need to stop searching. The right guy/girl will come along when you least expect it. Miranda met Steve at a bar after being stood up by Carrie. Harry was Charlotte’s divorce lawyer. Smith came into Samantha’s life during a ladies night at a new restaurant. Carrie met Aidan when Stanford dragged her to an art show. Aleksandr Petrovsky appeared when Charlotte and Carrie went to watch a woman on a hunger strike and called it art. She first met Big by bumping into him on the street (and dropping condoms out of her purse) after sleeping with an ex. In the end, Big shows up in Paris to announce his love for her when she least expects it. Live your life and let love follow.
6. It’s All About Perspective
Let’s face it: life happens. Your attitude can either create memories or wrinkles (due to excessive frowning.) When Samantha is diagnosed with cancer and loses her hair, rather than being put down, she sees it as an opportunity to be more fabulous. (Think wigs on wigs on wigs). When Big decides to not show on the big day and Carrie is left to honeymoon with the ladies, she focuses on creating a fresh start. Okay, so maybe a fresh start didn’t happen so easily, but hey, can you blame her? It only took a few days to come out of her “mexicoma.”
7. No Good Can Come From Faking It
Love or orgasms. Life is too short to fake your way through it. Plus, who benefits from faking it? Certainly not you. If you’re not into a relationship, let it go. I know, I know. Easier said than done. Carrie loved Aidan. And, when it came to wanting a marriage with him, she faked it for as long as she could. In the end, the truth came out. But, the pain is still there (and is slightly worse) even with faking it. In season 2, Miranda is reunited with an old fling. The flame quickly goes out after having to fake both orgasms with the guy. Running into each other months later, she decides to give him another chance. Despite Charlotte convincing her a good guy is worth faking for, Miranda realized orgasms are too good to give up. Wise decision.
8. Communication is Key
The foundation of any relationship is communication. My favorite thing about Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte’s friendship is that they are real with each other. They can talk about anything and everything (and I mean everything) without judgment. Okay, maybe there’s some slight judgment here and there, but it’s all within reason. And think about the failed and successful relationships. If Carrie had talked with Aidan about her feelings rather than faking her feelings, maybe they would’ve worked out. And where to begin with her and Big? Carrie couldn’t talk to Big. He had control, and she was afraid to be vulnerable. She let her fears build up until she exploded and they ended (over and over again). By the time the second movie roles around, Carrie has a (major) oopsie and kisses Aidan. Despite how hard it is to admit, she tells Big and they talk like adults. Amazing how communicating with each other can sort things out.
9. The Value of Girlfriends
Guys will come and go and sometimes come again. The biggest mistake anyone can make is shove their friends to the side to make more (and usually, unnecessary) room for their significant other. So maybe you’re with the one, but that’s more of a reason to see your friends. You have the rest of your life to spend with this person, what’s a few hours here and there with the girls? And let’s be real, chances are he’s going to royally screw up every now and then. You can expect needing your girlfriends. Most importantly, you need to have your own life in the life you’ve created together. Create that life with your gal pals.
10. The Most Exciting, Challenging and Significant Relationship Of All…
is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.